Have you ever noticed how you feel towards another person if they have done something nice for you? A coffee in bed just after the alarm goes off? Wow, that's talking my love language!
Human nature isn't that difficult to figure out. If people are kind to you, you will be kind to them. If others talk well of you, it can't be helped but you are going to like them. In fact that person may become a friend and you will no doubt talk well of them.
In the last few days I have been going through some troubling time. It's not hard for you to understand that since I've recently moved from Canada and I was once a pastor that I have made friends with my new pastor here in South Africa. As I've shared with him some of the issues I'm now facing he is investing his time in me. He listens, I can tell he is because he's making eye contact with me and nods like he's understanding. When I get carried away he asks questions and helps to keep me focused. It's part of being not only a good listener and pastor but also a good friend. Ultimately his investment of time in me is for God's glory. He wants to see me through my hard time and be successful in what I'm wrestling with.
Pay attention to peoples needs
Again, the words of Jesus can clarify..."If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you." Matthew 6:41,42
Maybe it's easier said than done but we have an example in Christ to follow.
He gave His life for ours when we didn't even know how much we needed it.
Please understand that I'm not asking for your life here, I'm only asking that you show kindness to people you come in contact with. Start with your spouse, family and friends. Then work towards people you don't know.
Practical things to do
How about the person in the lane next to you that wants to get ahead of you. Gently step on your brake and let him in, you may start a pattern on the courtesy on the roads (I think it's much needed here).
Be like my friend and pastor and take time to listen to someone who is struggling with an issue. Giving time can be your greatest gift.
Learn someones love language and speak it. Gary Chapman has outlined them as
- Words
of Affirmation
- Quality
Time
- Receiving
Gifts
- Acts
of Service
- Physical
Touch
As you do these things people will become kinder to you and
God will be glorified.
